Relationship Help – 3 Key Secrets

Wednesday, May 6th, 2009 at 6:43 am

You can really improve the quality of your relationship with a few simple practices. Just paying attention to these three secrets can transform the quality of your relationship starting today. More detailed information on all of this is available in a free relationship course 7 Vital Relationship Insights You Never Learned In School.

Top Secret Number One: Play! Studies have shown that the more play you have with your partner, the less fighting there will be. So if you are fighting a lot, play more, and test this out for yourself. Just a few hours a week can begin to uplift your entire relationship.

So do you have a date night at least once a week where you both go spend time playing together like you did in the beginning? Make the time to have fun with your mate!

Top Practice Number Two: Get Better At Conflict. Conflict will happen in any relationship. How you manage and deal with the conflict is the key to having a better relationship. During conflict we all tend to revert emotionally to 7 year olds, but screaming at your mate or expressing contempt are some of the big trouble signs for a marriage.

As you will be arguing with your love from time to time anyway, it is good to start now to take some time to learn how to deal with conflict in healthy ways. One technique is to learn to attack less during a fight and use “I” statements rather than “you” statements to discuss how you feel. You can get some free training on conflict and Emotional Intelligence here.

Top Practice Number Three is to Minimize the Mind Reading. Your lover can’t read your mind. They don’t actually just know what you want and need. Recognize this and help them out by asking for what you want. If you need some time to yourself, ask. If you need them to just listen instead of give you their advice, speak up for that as well.

By asking for what you need, you can prevent a lot of fights and sulking.You can also support your mate in making requests for what they need as well. That’s being a good partner.

There is obviously a lot more to each of these three topics. Books have been written on them. But spending some time and effort on these three principles will pay off for your relationship over the long term. If you’d like to learn more about Relationship Intelligence to transform your love life, you can fix relationship problems with a free course.