How Do I Save My Marriage?

Saturday, September 26th, 2009 at 6:57 am

Can I Save My Marriage? : Introducing the Three C’s

As you enter the marriage, you need to know that not everything will be what you want. It will involve working at solving the problem.The two people bring different personalities and uniqueness to the relationship. When you have difficulties in your marriage you must realize that you need to continue to work through your problems. The amount of dedication you put into this shows your partner will help you both learn from the experience and you will ultimatly strenthen your relationship.

However, some of these couples being to do things that drive wedges between themselves and their spouse and ultimately stop talking altogether. Because of this, we are going to briefly introduce the three top items that every couple must implement in order to save their marriage. First, you must restore the commitment of working together. To save your marriage, the last two things you must do is reopen the communication lines and seek counseling.

The First C: Commitment -

To save your marriage, it’s important that both you and your spouse want to fix your marriage and truely commit to each other that your going to try and work at it. In order to rekindle and recapture what you once had, you must commit. A commitment is not a feeling; it is not an attempt. Commitment is the will that says I will try my hardest to save my marriage. Commitment is a decision, the decision to make it work no matter what.

The Second C: Communication -

We know you’ve heard this several times before, and we’re here to tell you there is no getting around it. Another thing that’s crucial to saving your marriage is to open the lines of communication. You must open these lines of communication, because so many marriages don’t make it due to the lack of communication between the individuals. When you use communication your leltting your partner express what they feel in a place where they don’t feel judged and they feel safe. To make the communication work, both people need to participate. Also, communication is hearing what your partner has to say.

The Final C: Counseling

Lastly, to really make this marriage work, you need to find a counselor. Someone who knows what they are doing to help you work through your problems. The counselor will not take sides, they will act like a middle man, and help you with your relationship. The counselor can help you and your partner save your marriage by working through the challenges you are facing. The counselor will have plenty of experience, preventing him/her from taking sides. You cannot try to understand your partner if you don’t see from their point of view. This is something that the counselor can help you with. The counselor can help you find your own perspective on the relationship and whats going on. Using these three steps, you could save your marriage.

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