Getting Your Ex Back After You Did Something Wrong

Saturday, June 20th, 2009 at 6:55 am

Do you want to get your ex back after they dumped you for wronging them in some way? Maybe you cheated on them or were too controlling or you fought and argued with them all the time. At some point, they got fed up and dumped you. You can learn more about getting back together here.

Now you’ve learned a lesson or two. You are sorry for what you’ve done. You want them back. The good news is that you can recover from the damage you caused the relationship and win them back, if you follow an emotionally powerful proven plan. Plus, you don’t need to wait 30 days or longer to get your ex back, you can often repair the damage in hours.

The first thing proven method to getting your ex back after wronging them is to admit to yourself that you did wrong them. You did something or somethings that hurt them. You caused them to go from a heart full of love for you to a heart full of sadness or anger or pain about you. You did that. You cheated on them or you argued and fought with them and they finally had it.

This first step is important because you know how we human beings are. We like to place the blame for bad things outside ourselves. We blame our ex or we blame the drinking or the stress or the loneliness for what we did. We don’t want to accept responsibility for our bad behaviors. You can get a complete system for Get Your Ex Back In Hours here.

The second step is to then admit this to your ex. Don’t make excuses, dont try to explain, don’t say it didn’t mean anything. Talk to your ex and fess up. In your own words say I wronged you. This is one of the most powerful things you can do.

Why is this important? Because when someone hurts us we can’t start to forgive, usually, until we know that they own up to what they did. If you cheated on your ex and say “it didn’t mean anything” then they will think you might do it again, because it wasn’t that big and meaningful an issue to you. But if you own up, your ex can at least feel that you understand what you did wrong.

The normal mistake we make when we wrong our mate is to keep saying I’m sorry til we’re blue in the face. A better approach is to start this way, by owning up to what you did and taking responsibility for it. This is emotionally powerful for your ex to hear.

So before you get to actually apologizing, you should do certain things first. The above two steps are a good place to start. Acknowledging to yourself and then to your ex what you did wrong is a nice beginning to repairing the damage. Go here for a free course on How To Make Relationships Work.