Get Your Ex Back

Sunday, May 16th, 2010 at 4:20 pm

The loss of a loving relationship is one of life’s saddest events. As the song says: “Ain’t no pain like from the opposite sex”. However, if you have ever read any articles about how to make your ex want you back then you know that allowing yourself to become disheartened is not a very good idea. Sometime you have to force yourself to do the opposite of what you feel like doing.

I’ve looked into how to go about fixing relationships and here are some the tips I’ve found.

Let Things Calm Down

If you want to make your ex want you back then you will avoid the temptation to phone, email or hassle them with constant text messages. At the most, you could to tell your ex that they can get in touch with you. Then avoid contacting them altogether. Don’t call, write, email or text. Also avoid asking mutual friends about them.

Whatever you do, don’t beg or plead with your ex. Begging makes you look needy, which is decidedly unattractive and will make your ex less likely to want to get back together. Instead try to remain cool and calm and don’t make any effort to get in contact with them.

After a while, it may be time to initiate contact. Here’s the best advice I’ve found on: how to get your ex to return your calls when you’re ready Be sure to read the advice on that page about planning and follow-up.

Get A New Look

A lot of people giving advice on how to make your ex want you back suggest taking care of your appearance and health. That’s a great idea for a lot of reasons. As you go about your normal business you may well run into some friends of your ex who will report back how good you’re looking. Taking care of your body will also make you feel better about yourself. Exercise and eat well and update your wardrobe. Do not stay home mopping, eating junk food and letting yourself go.

Get Your Life Together

If you make of point of telling yourself and every one who will listen how depressed you are then you obviously have no idea how to make your ex want you back. Depression does not make other people want to spend time with you. If you want your ex back, go out and try to have a good time doing things you enjoy. It’s probably not a good idea to start dating right away. However it’s fine to be out and about with a group of friends or hangin’ in whatever social scene you enjoy.

Be Willing To Fail

The fact is that even if you follow all of the advice on how to make your ex want you back you might never rekindle your relationship with them. The advice has the best chance of working if your ex had mixed feeling about the break up and wasn’t one hundred percent sure about breaking up with you in the first place. Unfortunately, loving someone doesn’t guarantee they’ll return the emotion. So while you should not give up hope you still need to be prepared for the fact that your plan may not work.

Here’s the kind of weird thing. If you’re willing to let go, it’s more likely that you will win your ex back. I don’t want to get new-agey, but there does seem to be something about the energy of someone who is friendly without seeming needy.

If you want the best possible chance of getting your ex back, then you should learn how to use psychology to influence things in your favor. Take a look at this review of Second Chance Romance. Second Chance Romance teaches you how you can use powerful psychological triggers to positively influence your ex.