Abusive Spouse

Wednesday, December 16th, 2009 at 6:57 am

Today’s society, unlike in the past, is becoming more and more aware of spouse abuse. An abusive spouse can be of either gender, male or female although most often than never it is the men who are the abuser and the women who are the abused. The behavior of an abusive spouse is very different in a relationship and he/she would normally be a very difficult individual to classify, however more commonly they display both emotional and physical abuse. Verbal ridicule, demeaning their partner and neglect are examples of emotional abuse while physical abuse involves acts such as threats,slapping,shoving and physical assault.

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Some may wonder the cause that makes an abusive spouse to display such behavior. Well, they are propelled by feelings of uncertainty and powerlessness making them falsely believe that they are in control which exaggerates their self-importance. The end result is jealousy or unhealthy possessiveness which can also be seen as a misguided sense of love. Normal marital disagreements differ greatly from intense verbal, emotional and physical abuse that some victims may regard as a marital duty.A fair amount of verbal conflict is unavoidable in marriage life, nevertheless a marital conflict should not cross certain boundaries.

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A husband and wife issupposed to care, love and respect each other. Treating their partner like a slave and carrying all the weight in a relationship shouldn’t be accepted; neither should repression and cruelty in a marriage. Recognizing the issue in an abusive spouse is the first step to being aware in the relationship.Denying the beliefs and instincts of an abusive spouse will only damage yourself. Realizing why and how you have allowed your spouse to verbally and emotionally abuse you and have it take control of your relationship. Consider the reasoning behind your surrender to such indefensible treatment.

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An abusive spouse can have severe consequences on family and children as well.People who live with an abusive spouse are generally isolated from friends and family and most often keep to themselves due to their controlling spouses.Children who come from a family with an abusive spouse display characteristics such as poor academic performance, depression,fear, guilt, hostility and irritability. Even children who are not abused by the abusive spouse have the tendency to commit violent crimes and delinquent behavior in the future.

Remember that getting out of an abusive relationship is the right thing for the good of your family and your children.